The World is unfair. A truthful phrase that has exhausted it's impact due to overusage. How naive and ignorant is the one who says otherwise. Some are born into suffering without ever being able to escape from it. Undeserving people have lived luxuriously and in such extravagrant manners to which most could have only dreamed of. Luck has given extraordinary talents to random individuals while less fortunate ones have been given deficiencies and abnormalities. Sad, but true.
The Principles of Life
If there was any rules to live life by, there would only be one rule: there are no rules. Absolute principles are seemingly innocuous but its' uncompromising nature sets the ground for many fundamentalists and extremists. It is pitifully presumptuous and infantile to think that there is a solution to every problem. There are no guarantees. Honesty is not always the best policy. There may be wills, but no ways. How many have lost their lives, destroyed other lives, wasted their time and wasted others time for no other than abiding to their principles. It is within oneself and the situation one must gauge before coming to the conclusion of solubility.
"I am a man of fixed and unbending principles, the first of which is to be flexible at all times." -Everett Dirksen
The Average Human
The average person is an idiot. He is ignorant and mostly useless. He is susceptible to supersition, gullible to propaganda and limited in terms of creativity and intelligence. Do not be surprised if he tells you clouds are the grounds of heaven. Do not be surprised if he does not know H2O is water. Do not be surprised if he tells you with such ferocious certainty that the afterlife exists. Such is the average person. The bulk of Homo Sapiens are unfortunately carried by these people, hence the term "average". The nature of the average human is the very reason why acceptance is important. Change is unlikely as it is our nature. As long as humans exists, so will our nature and thus so will selfishness, greed, ignorance and all other sins and vices.
"Even in the socially and economically and legally most utopian conditions, there will remain this irreducible self-obtuseness, self-evasiveness, self-irreality, in which men forever act as their own premier and unrecognized worst enemies, the obscure causes of their own self-suffering." -Kenneth Smith
An Honest Acceptance of Reality
When the man or woman has experienced enough mistreatment, enough discrimination, enough inequality, enough unfairness, it can be said that he or she will have understood the World's nature. The said person would then have to face a choice, to challenge, to deny or to accept. To challenge is to change. To deny is to fantasize. To accept is to know. Now, challenging the World's nature is quite different from challenging a particular situation. Do not get confused, for it could very well mean life and death. As I have mentioned before, we can change many things, but we cannot change our nature. To deny reality is to wish for a better one, in other words, to dream. This course of action has a tendency to insanity. The most reasonable discourse is an honest acceptance. To accept does not necessarily mean to submit. It means to know. Once the harsh nature of the World has been accepted, life would be less dissappointing, ideas and decisions would be more practical and realistic, credulity would be lessened.
"Understand this law and you will then know, beyond room for the slightest doubt, that you are constantly punishing yourself for every wrong you commit and rewarding yourself for every act of constructive conduct in which you indulge. " -Napoleon Hill
Personal Problems And Advice
The problem with most personal problems is that its' so self-indulgent in itself that the solution usually gets overshadowed by emotions like pride and selfishness. What's worse is that majority of the people asking for advice already know the solution to these problems. The solution is often pretty simple: go talk to the other party in a calm, mature and rational manner. However, pride disallows it and brands the solution as a type of submission, greed dismisses the solution due to potential compromises, etc.
Furthermore, people who seek advice regarding personal issues usually aren't really seeking advice. They are seeking comfort. They want to hear "Sounds bad." or "Take it easy." or "Sounds like you are in a tight spot." in order to justify their distress. They won't settle for an easy and useful solution because that would make their problems look petty. These people only seek attention and it would be a real pity if anyone wasted their time on them.
"The human mind prefers to be spoonfed with the thoughts of others, but deprived of such nourishment it will, reluctantly, begin to think for itself- and such thinking, remember, is original thinking and may have valuable results." -Agatha Christie
In the case of genuine inquiring, most people just don't realize that personal problems in general cannot be solved by other people. There are just too many factors in a PR problem (What is the attitude of that person towards you, how do you normally communicate with that person, etc.) that the advisor wouldn't know and I dare say it's nigh impossible to describe the scenario vividly to the advisor. Just imagine trying to solve a problem sum without most of the given values! A person might be offer some useful advice but the ultimate and best solution still lies within your own assessment.
"When you approach a problem, strip yourself of preconceived opinions and prejudice, assemble and learn the facts of the situation, make the decision which seems to you to be the most honest, and then stick to it." -Chester Bowles
-To be Continued...
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